I think I don't have an easy kid.

It started all the way from he was barely a 7 month old foetus. Who probably found that it was really dull being in the water-bag all day, and decided to force his way out. I had active labour contractions at 28 weeks and had to be hospitalised, was then prescribed pills to keep him in there and was on medical leave till the day he arrived at 36 weeks.

For 2 months, he was a colic baby and then for another 6 months refused to follow the sleeping routines set up for him. From 8 months, he decided that he disliked porridge and almost everything that he was given and continued his food strikes till he was almost 2 and a half. Even till today, he still refuses many many things.

At 3 years 3 months, despite training him to sleep through the night, he still wakes up at least twice at night and complains of night terrors (that's for a good day, the not-so-good days he will be waking up at least 5 times). He fusses like 50% of the time when he wakes up from his afternoon naps, when he has to brush his teeth in the mornings and when he has to take bath. 

His home-learning has to carefully orchestrated and planned, he needs to be in a learning mood to be able to do anything for that day. He will exclaim very loudly 'It's boring or It's not fun," when the activity does not meet up to his standards. So I have to be extremely observant to catch his mood for that day.

As for discipline issues, I encounter lots of problems like any other parent of a strong-willed child.

Despite being such a challenging kid most of the time, he is still a joy to have. 

It will be nice to have another child. Only if, I get a super-easy child that is like the total opposite of K, or, if K suddenly becomes this easy and sensible kid and I get the will-power to want to start everything from scratch. It will also be real nice if there are 48 hours in a day and I can survive with less than 4 hours of sleep daily.

Having time for K, myself and dh is extremely important (although dh always complains that I don't have enough time for him). I suppose I am just a bad multi-tasker or simply too focused on one task on hand. I just do not want to compromise and cannot imagine having a sibling for him now, or next year or the year after.

I can probably list at least 20 good reasons why I should have another child, but still I am not convinced or simply, I am just not brave enough to want to be a mom of two just yet.

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Life's never dull living with a 3 year old that is full of zest and energy, who loves to entertain with his repetoire of dance moves and acting 'skills'.

Dancing to Mozart from Rachel T on Vimeo.

Drama from Rachel T on Vimeo.

Who knows, he may have a future in performance arts. The only thing I hope he will not do, will be to dress up like a super-hero and prance around in a stage in a shopping mall, i.e., like an stage performer in the Ben-10 show that is now showing in United Square. Eh…it's just me being discriminating by making a comment like that, it is afterall a respectable job

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