Life and learning

The CNY holidays went by like a blur for me. Although there wasn't much visiting to do (thank goodness) and since I am not really a fan of the festivities, I was quite glad that it was over and done with so quickly. On the household front, I have been maidless the last 2.5 weeks, due to the transition of the previous maid moving on to new employment after 4 years with us and awaiting the new helper to arrive. The daily routine was taxing; having to wash, iron, clean, trying to manage some craft orders, administrative matters for myplayschool.net, as well as care and cleaning after the 2 boys in the house.

After this maidless experience, I realised that it is still manageable without a full time maid at home, as long I am willing to survive with less than 5 hours of sleep daily, less time for crafting and I have to be willing to close an eye to the mess in the house.

Home-learning took a back seat for the time being, but with literature based learning methods, I still managed to do quite a bit of read-alouds daily and some lapbooks with K. We are still taking it easy on the academic front, no rush on learning to read, writing or math. His school has been quite pro-active in developing these skills, as K has been bringing home Rigby readers and Chinese readers from school and homework for handwriting practice weekly.

Just a couple a months back, I told K that we will be doing more hand-writing activities at home but he exclaimed that he will not do it at home, but only in school. Somehow, thanks to 'homework' from school, it has managed to change his attitude towards hand-writing practice at home. He told me earlier this evening, "I like homework," and asked for more tracing activities to do. I actually had to get him to stop after a while and told him to go and play instead 😉

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For one that tends to fancy rainbow shades in his colouring, he has finally decided that he will colour things in their appropriate shades, i.e., apples will be red. I am not sure if this can be considered a milestone, since he is always given lots of freedom in his 'artistic expression.' Maybe the teachers in school have something to do with that…hmm…

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I am still not fully an advocate of Susan Striker's theory of being totally anti about colouring books. An interesting quote that I have came across from her site about colouring books and kids.

"Coloring books take away the opportunity for the children to show their interpretation of the world. To create a coloring book picture is to conform to the adult version of the way the world is. Thus, coloring books are obstacles to artistic development. They prevent children from expressing themselves creatively, deny parents the opportunity to delve into the psyche of their children, and stifle the creation of original art." (Jeff Passe "Throw Away Those Coloring Books" Mothering, Winter 1986)

So true, but at the same time, I think colouring has got its benefits. I never buy colouring books for K ever, but he does get to do a fair bit of colouring from school and sunday school. Colouring, to a certain extent, helps develop discipline and a respect for rules and some conformity. And since I plan to put K through the local school system, some conformity needs to be taught.

Too much of colouring books will not develop an imaginative artist and it definitely should not be the only 'art' experience that a child has. Kids should be given more time to freely express themselves open-endedly with different mediums of art, and spend less time on colouring books.

Anyhow, K is still allowed the colour anyway he wishes to and I still will get Susan Striker's anti colouring book when he turns 5+, despite the fact that he is not turning out to be much of an artist.

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Positive reinforcement?

After all that festive excitement is over, the novelty of new toys have worn out. K started going through the Playmobile catalogue and asked for new sets for his birthday. I realised that when toys come so easily for him, he will not appreciate the value of gifts and will start to take these things for granted.

Thus dh came up with this idea to help K learn the value of money, as well as make sure he finishes his food at every meal; 50 cents will be given to K each time he finishes the food on his plate. He eats way too little for a child his age and he has acquired a bad habit of leaving food on his plate at every meal. I am also hoping this works so that I don't have to raise my voice / threaten punishment for not finishing his food each time.

I wasn't too thrilled with this idea initially, as I felt that it was not good to be 'paid' for finishing food. Afterall, it is something that has to be done without being offered a reward at the end of it. Dh's argument was that since it was so difficult for him to finish food, this was an effective way to help him learn the value of money, as well as, give him the experience of 'raising' his own funds for his toys.

Once the funds have been 'raised' for his new toy, we hope that he would have gotten used to finishing all his meals (I hope it works and not come to a stage where no 50 cents = no finishing food on his plate). And we will move on to getting him to do specific chores around the house for 50 cents at each time, to help him raise funds for another toy that he has set his eyes on. He has to share the money that he raised by buying an item for his friend, so as to discourage any form of being totally self-serving in his efforts.

Dh and I don't believe in denying our child toys, as he may possibily fall victim to excessive consumerism when he is older. Denying your child toys (not excessively) is similar to denying your child junk food or sweets when there are pre-schoolers. I may be stereotyping with my example but I have heard of some friends who were denied sweets and potato chips when they were younger, and subsquently went on a junk food binge when they were in pre-teens/ adolescent age.

This method has worked quite well the last few days, as K has repeatedly finished all his food at every meal. Although I have to work doubly hard to ensure that he does not acquire a love of money or a constant desire for material things.

Looks like I have to step up his exposure to hungry, starving children from youtube videos, more empathy building stories and a visit to Cambodia to help build something for orphanages when he is of age.

Sigh… It's really tough being a parent.

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