A couple of weeks ago, I did an Instagram giveaway for one of my handmades.
So I just went through the motion of asking people to share my post on Instagram, so as to qualify for an entry in the giveaway. Coupled with the requirement of being a follower of my Instagram feeds. One of the Instagram accounts that I am connected to recently did a giveaway, so I blindly followed suit thinking it will be nice to have more followers.
Right after the giveaway winners were drawn, items mailed out to the winners. Then it dawned on me.
Why will I need more followers?
I have never planned to monetize this blog, so having more followers on my social media channels or readers to this blog don’t make a difference. In fact, from last year, I have ceased taking on product or service reviews and I have been turning down invitations for any launch or event.
So why have I stopped doing reviews or to cover activities that benefit my child or the family?
I am embarking on an effort to simplify my family life. You can say that I am depriving my child of being exposed to ‘new and fun experiences’, but I am leading the way for him to learn that joy and contentment doesn’t just come from external stimulation or experiences, but true contentment and joy comes from Who we are spending time with, and NOT What we are seeking it from.
The other reason is, I do not wish to participate in any form of activity that measures this blog or the ‘performance’ of my social media channels.
As a blogger, I think it’s all too easy to fall into this social media trap, where most look to our blogging metrics to define our self-worth in terms of what we think we have accomplished in the blogging world; though our blogging reach, social media followers, or from awards.
The recent reported spat between 2 popular lifestyle bloggers was a good example. So what does it mean to be a ‘top blogger’? If we look beyond the nice-to-haves; being paid to blog or not having to fork out money for some things. Popularity from the blog, or any form of success that we see from our pursuits, do tend to feed the ego.
I think this quote by Henri Nouwen puts it very aptly, how our ego can be our greatest enemy;
When we start being too impressed by the results of our work, we slowly come to the erroneous conviction that life is one large scoreboard where someone is listing the points to measure our worth. And before we are fully aware of it, we have sold our soul to the many grade-givers. That means we are not only in the world, but also of the world. Then we become what the world makes us. We are intelligent because someone gives us a high grade. We are helpful because someone says thanks. We are likable because someone likes us. And we are important because someone considers us indispensable. In short, we are worthwhile because we have successes. And the more we allow our accomplishments — the results of our actions — to become the criteria of our self-esteem, the more we are going to walk on our mental and spiritual toes, never sure if we will be able to live up to the expectations which we created by our last successes. In many people’s lives, there is a nearly diabolic chain in which their anxieties grow according to their successes. This dark power has driven many of the greatest artists into self-destruction. – Henri Nouwen
I realized that as we age, we have less and less opportunities to experience the feeling of success from what we do, and social media can often give the instant gratification and re-create the feeling of success. It’s the same kind of feeling that we get from positive evaluation of good results, thank you-s from others, or having a popular blog. This immediate feedback of LIKES, Shares and hits on the blog and social media posts, not only gives a value to what we do online, but eventually who we are.
So what does it mean after saying these things?
I think metrics are good indicators of how we are performing on a certain task, in this case, blogging or interaction on social media. However, these metrics or the popularity of your blog or following can’t be the focus of your self-worth or success.
Our self-worth, is shaped by the mundane things that we do, the daily decisions that we make as a mom, wife, daughter, sister and a friend. Getting approval from others from what we write on a blog or through social media, isn’t going to provide us with a sudden revelation of self-discovery.
Self-worth is formed through the slow prodding journey that we take towards being a person of value.
As for what this means for my blogging journey?
I will continue write about what I am able to see beyond what’s right in front of me, finding meaning and faith to this thing called life.
I will still do giveaways on this blog, on Facebook or Instagram. But the focus will be through sharing ideas, joy and hope with others, or simply just giving away what I have hand-made or things that I like.
So even if it is just 5 or 50 people reading this blog, I am encouraged to keep on writing in this space.
Touche. 😉
Thank you for this post. This post is timely and very needed. I am too, getting overwhelmed by this entire social media frenzy of likes and sharing!
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So true! Sometimes, I find it gets in the way of what the objective of my blog is. Thanks for the reminder!
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Thanks, Rachel for this post.
missing the days working as a missy. #insta
Indeed, there are times I felt lost in what I want my blog to be.
But glad to find someone who writes in their own pace and space without wanting to be on top and have a contentment life with their family members.
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Christy (Kids R Simple) sent me this link to read and I’m glad she did.
It’s so easy to get caught up in followers or page views. You have to remind yourself to set your own metric by which you can measure the value of your endeavours. You have to ask yourself what you’re ultimately trying to do.
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“I realized that as we age, we have less and less opportunities to experience the feeling of success from what we do, and social media can often give the instant gratification and re-create the feeling of success.”
So true! I was trying to explain to my mom how social media works and how influence matters so everything’s broken down into numbers and likes, and she gave me an amused (and not-quite-interested) look.
I generally admire people who’ve found a way to succeed at what they love, but I’m also in awe of those who have consciously reduced or even stayed away from social media–I’m not a big user, and I already have to constantly remind myself that life comes first.
*hi 5* you speak my thoughts though I doubt I could put it down so well